19-06-2019 09:11 PM
@CheerBear @Maggie @Ali11 @eth thanks and to everyone for your support and kindness. Life seems to worsen instead of improve, or when you think things are starting to pick up, yet another hurdle comes up.
I'm also trying to be there and support a couple mates that also has depression, one had recently lost her dad as well.
I try to remember back to how I got through loosing my own dad but that time back then for months was a blur. Even now I still ecexpe to see him if I head back to mum's.
Any tips with supporting someone? And also looking after yourself?
19-06-2019 09:24 PM
I've just moved your post from the 'Introduce yourself here' discussion to its own discussion as it seemed you wanted to continue talking and getting advice. I have realised I could have let you know you can start your own thread too and let you do this yourself. I apologise I didn't offer you the chance to do this.
I hope this thread will be easier to find for people who want to support you around this really important issue of how to support others when we're struggling. Feel free to change the subject of the discussion too to reflect what you want.
19-06-2019 06:32 AM - edited 19-06-2019 06:34 AM
You must really care about your friends to be supporting them at the moment with everything you have going on yourself. I imagine that being there for your friend who lost their dad could be especially difficult (though I might be wrong). Are your friends aware of how you're travelling and what you've been through too?
While there's so much that's great about being around people we care about, sometimes when things are really tough for me I find it hard to support others and can quite quickly run myself empty. One of the lessons I've learned (often the hard way and I'm still learning it) is that when I'm going through a hard time I need to really monitor myself and make sure I'm not taking too much on. I also think self-care is essential and I know I need to watch how that's going for me and try and take time to look after myself too. I try and remember that it's OK to say no too. I can find it really tricky to take time out to look after myself, but I think I find it trickier to run myself down and crash.
How are you finding self-care is going for you at the moment?
The other night a discussion on looking after yourself while supporting others was held here on the forum. It might be helpful to have a read through it if you'd like, and hear how others manage it.
Good to 'see' you again 🙂
20-06-2019 12:36 PM
Hi @kk3 just checking in to see how you're going today? Have been thinking about you. Eth
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