30-01-2024 05:34 PM
30-01-2024 05:34 PM
Hullo there brains trust
30-01-2024 05:37 PM
30-01-2024 05:37 PM
30-01-2024 05:37 PM
Oh I feel you on this @Oaktree – this is something I am going to for sure get into some of my own experiences tonight and I would be really interesting to hear your thoughts!
30-01-2024 05:37 PM
30-01-2024 05:37 PM
I am 57 and still experience terror when I express my opinion and then wait for the reply
How can I calm down? (I do have a psychologist so just brainstorming)
30-01-2024 05:38 PM
30-01-2024 05:38 PM
Welcome everyone!
Let's get started with our first question of the evening, feel free to share your thoughts, opinions, and any questions you may have for our special guest in this thread 🙂
How do you build confidence in speaking up – especially about what your needs are? @oscbeep
30-01-2024 05:39 PM
30-01-2024 05:39 PM
I've heard people say, just jump in and experience it, but I am unable to function properly as I wait for the reply to an expressed need
30-01-2024 05:39 PM
30-01-2024 05:39 PM
I think asking for help from someone who cares to make time to let me feel heard might help.
30-01-2024 05:40 PM
30-01-2024 05:40 PM
Its difficult to be confident to speak up without feeling like I'm being rude or aggressive. I try to be assertive but I'm not sure I come across well all the time. Practise helps.
30-01-2024 05:40 PM
30-01-2024 05:40 PM
Thanks
A few things come to mind that have really helped me:
So I have found that putting my values into action (and sometimes pushing back) is the most empowering thing I can do to feel confident within myself. Action can take so many different forms for me- caring about community, valuing honesty, practicing allyship…. There are so many things that I value- and when I choose to act in accordance with what I choose to value- that feels good.
30-01-2024 05:40 PM - edited 30-01-2024 05:41 PM
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