30-01-2024 06:08 PM
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Firstly I need to write down my values and then I post them on my wall to Remind me of them!!
30-01-2024 06:13 PM
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This is absolutely valid @chibam -this exact issue is something that becomes a massive barrier created by the systemic limitations of how our mental health system can pathologize our experience of distress, suicidality or crisis! These systems can really back us into a corner and make us feel very cautious about what to disclose and who can trust to hold onto our distress. This is why I love peer work!
30-01-2024 06:13 PM
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Developing love for our interests, having positive role models, having good places to discuss what is important to us to express.
30-01-2024 06:14 PM
30-01-2024 06:14 PM
Figuring out what we care about is a great place to start- what is truly important to us? What do we even like? Connecting to our self-awareness and giving ourselves the time is to do this can be important too. The relationship with have with ourselves can become a driving force for action.
I like to encourage curiosity to lead me down the path of action. Say I have a spark- this thing that has hooked me and got me to care- I allow curiosity to encourage me to explore, learn, research. Once I feel like my curiosity has put some fuel in my tank then action feels far more accessible. If you are feeling at all stuck thinking about this have a look at VIA Institute on Character- Strengths survey – it can be a really nice to be asked some questions and have your strengths and values reflected back to you!
Honestly, action is work and it does takes fuel, so before I put anything into action I try to be mindful of where I’m at and how resourced I am. I have definitely have a personal understanding that sometimes we carry the heavy load of fluctuating mental health- this can mean that there are times that speaking up feels near impossible. I want you to know that you are not alone in this feeling.
If I am ever feeling limited by my capacity I always like to come back to these actions:
If this is something you are interested in reflecting on more this is an amazing resource to have a look at- Living Into Our Values - Brené Brown
30-01-2024 06:15 PM
30-01-2024 06:15 PM
@amber22 wrote:How can we put into action what our values are?
OMG, this one is so prickly! Because expressing our values can be so toxic to those around us if those values are contradictory to their own, can't it?
So, IMHO, we pretty much need to view this question as a follow-up to other questions like:
30-01-2024 06:16 PM
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@amber22 @chibam @exploring @Loiter @Snowie @tyme
Setting Boundaries by Dr Rebecca Ray helped me massively.
Saying “No” to someone once a week. You don’t owe anyone a explanation.
If it’s a friend asking you for coffee suggest a time and day that suits you.
Never explain, don’t complain.
First you got to know what you want for yourself and say what you want.
Say it with conviction. It is important that I …..
I did it yesterday and got exactly what I wanted.
G
30-01-2024 06:17 PM
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Those are epic! Thank you for sharing 🙂 @Glisten
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