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[Glisten]

@scruffypuffball  I really like “Love should not feel like cruelty or chaos”

🤗

[creative_writer]

@scruffypuffball your posts are so meaningful 💖

[Former-Member]

@scruffypuffball 🤗🌺

^^ditto @Glisten ’s and @creative_writer ’s posts 💜😊

[scruffypuffball]

@PinkFlamingo @Jynx @Glisten @Alonely @Shaz51 @Snowie @Dimity @NatureLover @_PixieSolstice_ @Captain24 @Bow @creative_writer @Appleblossom 

Yup:

It's not normal:

Dr Ramani said this in a recent interview, "you are in love, they are in power"

[scruffypuffball]

@Glisten @Former-Member @Shaz51 

yes, love should not hurt. dont confuse love with abuse

[scruffypuffball]

@PinkFlamingo @Jynx @Glisten @Alonely @Shaz51 @Snowie @Dimity @NatureLover @_PixieSolstice_ @Captain24 @Bow @creative_writer @Appleblossom 

Ah! here it is I found it.  This is so important, I am here to raise awareness.  Let's build our strength ❤️

[scruffypuffball]

@PinkFlamingo @Jynx @Glisten @Alonely @Shaz51 @Snowie @Dimity @NatureLover @_PixieSolstice_ @Captain24 @Bow @creative_writer @Appleblossom 

This is Shahida Arabi's tiktok explaining how trauma affects the brain even when you are calm.

https://www.tiktok.com/@shaylolita1111/video/7284266347897294123?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

@Jynxthis is a video where Shahida explains how if you leave them and go back you will get worse abuse (i havent had time to go thru my collection of research, I am very busy lately, one day when I have time dammit):

https://www.tiktok.com/@shaylolita1111/video/7292250687172381998?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

[Glisten]

@scruffypuffball  I am never going down the abuse road again.

Boundaries and requirements all the way.

Since I have been applying Boundaries to me and my relationships, it cut some dead wood and that is a very good thing.

Do you exercise Boundaries?

G

[scruffypuffball]

@Glistenyes, they say once you have gotten away and started to work on your recovery, you cant go back to the way you were.  You can't unlearn it all like it never happened.  Your brain has changed.  I am relapsing since last week due to family stuff... but I wont go back.  Keeping my distance.

[Glisten]

So true @scruffypuffball 

Boundaries have been the most important tool I have acquired.

Exercising Boundaries stops my toxic traits.

G