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06-07-2017 09:03 PM
06-07-2017 09:03 PM
Im actually terrified
I have let myself down so much by not been the mum that I wanted to be. I live in this hole of, I wish, I should've..... I just wanted to be.
I know I am only posting new here and I have also been a member for a couple of years. But when I first joined there was such a strong connection between a few members, which is great and powerful for you. But also a little intimidating for myself....
Anyway, even typing helps with the anxiety.
I've been out of hospital for almost 3 years but my almost 12yr old wants to live with a 'normal family' and I have to give that to her.
Guilty, sad, angry and resigned in about that order. It F##cking sucks.
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06-07-2017 09:56 PM
06-07-2017 09:56 PM
Re: Im actually terrified
What 'normal family' is your daughter talking about?
I know my son is currently struggling with having me with a mental illness. He's 14.
It's so painful to hear when they say they want 'more' than we can give. We do the best we can, when we can. No parent is perfect.
And as much as our children may want 'normal' - the grass is not necessarily greener on the other side.
Would you like to talk?
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06-07-2017 10:26 PM
06-07-2017 10:26 PM
Re: Im actually terrified
Hi Utopia
Thank you for responding,
I would really like to talk to you But are you around for another hour? 🙂
J
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06-07-2017 11:21 PM
06-07-2017 11:21 PM
Re: Im actually terrified
sorry I am western australia.
Hopefully tomorrow we can talk
Thank you for the time you gave me
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07-07-2017 06:05 AM
07-07-2017 06:05 AM
Re: Im actually terrified
Hello @Joccie
It doesn't matter when you joined, how often you have written.
I have not been in your situation. I do however have a very difficult relationship with my older son in his 30's.
having the role as a mother questioned is heartbreaking. I cannot begin to understand your anguish.
you say you like books and music on your other thread. Would you like to start a conversation on a book you are currently reading or a favourite, or a conversation of your choice?
dont worry about how many likes you receive. Responses can also be random due to us all having our own issues and struggles.
will check back in from time to time.
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07-07-2017 07:40 AM
07-07-2017 07:40 AM
Re: Im actually terrified
Hi @Joccie - being a mother is one of the most difficult jobs there is. There is no instruction manual. No absolute right and wrong way to act or handle every situation. And we are sometimes our harshest critics. I second guess myself all the time. Wishing my kids had a father that connected with them thinking it was my fault for choosing to marry the wrong man. Guilt, anger, sadness - yep, it's all there.
My mother has just recently passed away. She wasn't the sort of person I could really open up to but I feel she probably did the best job she knew how to. I am estranged from two of my siblings. I see other families who are so close and loving and feel sad that this wasn't us. My own children have no desire to be parents at this stage and I have to wonder whether it is because of what they have grown up with or witnessed. What is normal? All we can hope for is that our kids find happiness in life.
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07-07-2017 11:21 AM
07-07-2017 11:21 AM
Re: Im actually terrified
Yes I'm free to talk. I'm happy to share some of my experience with you. Or maybe you would be comfortable sharing what is happening for you and your daughter.