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[Fairladyzx]

Hi world,

My life has fallen apart in the last year. My long term partner left me out of the blue, I have experienced 3 surgeries (number 4 to look forward too), lost my job, told my rental will not be renewed (because the landlord require assistance on the property, prefer a couple to live in the cottage and doesn't want centrelink supported person's) and the list goes on..

I don't have many family and friends. Not sure what to do. I don't have money.

I feel like I am ready to snap. 

Any advice? Should I talk to my GP and go on medication? Is there any other form of help besides Centrelink?

[tyme]

Hey @Fairladyzx ,

We hear that everything is happening all at once. It is understandable you feel like you are about to snap. Your feelings are valid. Having a roof over your head is not a want... it's a need. And without that, it is no wonder you are feeling that things are getting a bit much.

Would you consider looking at house sharing or something until you can afford to get something on your own? That is, maybe renting a room for now? 

As for seeing your GP, if these feelings continue, it's worth speaking to your GP to see if they have any suggestions. As much as medication won't give you a house, it may help you to be more able to cope with the stressors of life.

Please know you are not alone. We are here to support you.

Do you have any thoughts about what you want to do, moving forward?

[SmilingGecko]

Hello @Fairladyzx sorry to hear your difficult news. I have a suggestion that might work for financial hardship. You could try putting up a crowdfunding advertisement with "Go Fund Me" which is an online platform that gets you to raise money for all kinds of life situations.

I have known people to raise thousands of dollars. Had an e-mail buddy who got paid to have throat surgery recently. It was touch and go but she was able to raise the funds just in time.

Had another facebook friend who lives on the smell of an oily rag but has a cottage in the mountains (her only asset) which she rents out as a B&B. When the fires came her car went kaput but was able to raise funds for a new vehicle. She needed the car to drive to and from the cottage for managing her B&B.

Her daughter was able to raise funds for a cat they adopted from the pound requiring surgery. 

You could of course go to a psychiatric rehab service and start socialising a bit. There are many folks there that could do with a housemate. Had a friend who housed a homeless person after befriending her, saw similar with another person in a gov't high rise. There are many people requiring housemates. You could also put up an ad on your local districts noticeboard on facebook saying you are looking for somewhere to live

I would also go to rehab like what is known as The Clubhouse Movement. There are clubhouses for psych disabled all over Australia. Just hop along. I have met some beautiful people there that would be very sensitive to your plight and able to put you up. They have experienced dire situations themselves and have open hearts.

Good luck with everything. I know you must be struggling but these are my suggestions. The situation may seem daunting but anything is worth a try.

[tyme]

How are you today @Fairladyzx ? I hope you have been able to take steps for your own self-care.

You deserve to look after yourself.

[Fairladyzx]

@tyme 

Thank you so much for caring and messaging me.

Today is still horrible.

My mind is reeling about what can I do to help my situation. 

I usually experience panic, sadness then a form of acceptance. 

Because, it's a Sunday I cannot make calls for help.

This is a very difficult world to live in right now. [edited by moderator] I have lost everything. 

I will try again tomorrow. 

I have my MRI booked for Wednesday. Fingers and toes crossed. 

[tyme]

I am sorry to hear how hard things are for you at the moment @Fairladyzx . It's a place many people can relate to whether currently or in the past. 

I have certainly been in a dark dark place in the past where I thought there was no way out. I never thought I'd see my 26th birthday... yet here am I... years on. 

We hear how hard it is for you. When your hope fails, let others hope for you.

I believe in you. There IS hope. There IS a way forward even if it is hard to see now.

[AdamDH]

Good luck! Keep us posted and chin up. Have you begun looking for a room or new place yet?

[Fairladyzx]

@AdamDH 

I don't have many options to move into at this particular time. 

No one will rent to someone on Centrelink support.

I am holding on. 

I put my barbie mask on and applied for some local hospitality jobs. At least, I quit when my surgery arrives. Not like I'm locked into a contract. Sounds horrible, but I hope it makes sense. 

[AdamDH]

Good luck with the job applications! I start a new hospo job this week. Are you in the Geelong area? How long do you have before you have to move out of your house?

[Fairladyzx]

@AdamDH 

My lease is fixed term until April 2024. This is why I am worried. Even if I moved out of my home, I would potentially have to pay the rent until then.

I am located in Perth, WA. I wish I was in Melbourne. The coffee and fashion capital of Australia. 

I'm trying to hang on. 

We have a serious heatwave this week. Not looking forward to the electricity bill, from using the air con. It's an old box style. Window ratter.