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Every now and then I take a deep dive. I will look more at Willard one day.  Been that way since I officially dropped philosophy at uni, in the 1980s. lol. Kept the big textbook, kept the love bit… love of wisdom… lol… feel like I lived foolishly… learning to forgive myself.

 

@Dimity   hope you are alright 

 

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@AuntGlow I feel inadequate in every way. Struggle to be patient with loved cat who may well have dementia. My difficult family member posts to random followers of problems but rejects my help. I'd just say to them I'm here and always have been. 

I can't face the therapist at present. They didn't accept responsibility for their Medicare errors - but said they could see me for a reduced rate. I'm still gutted as of course it also affects my relationship with my gp with whom they should have been corresponding. My new MHCP for the year ahead has been scuttled by their mistakes. I'll tell the gp next week.

Other legal and financial matters I'm trying to address are moving at a glacial pace. 

I've done a little decluttering, trying to reclaim some autonomy and control. It's complicated. My books  are behind clutter or boxed. I've been working through and divesting myself of old notes long outdated and irrelevant, painful reminders of past endeavours. I've invested in lighting and  eyewear for reading (I'm vision impaired) but psychological barriers remain. 

And there's the "garden" to resurrect. 

I'd like to reconnect with people and I'd say my lost identity but I've probably never had one.

 

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@Dimity Inadequacy is such a tough feeling to sit with, and it can be really hard to shift from this headspace when everything else feels so overwhelming. I can see why connecting with your current mental health supports may seem limited or inaccessible at the moment, as those disappointing experiences you've had have added to your psychological barriers to help seeking (and understandably so). Whilst your MHCP for the next year has been scuttled by these mistakes, hopefully going over this with your GP next week can help smooth things out.

 

It's great that you are looking for ways to regain some autonomy and control, although I understand this has also been bringing up some painful reminders of past memories. Connecting with people can be a great way to allow yourself to cope without having to feel so alone, so taking this step to connect on the forums is a great place to start.

 

Are there any other supports you may be able to reach out to help you cope with some of these difficult thoughts and feelings? 

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Thanks @ShadowMod .

I don't really have supports. I exchange messages with a couple of people who are self-reliant and expect the same of me. Perhaps that's an incentive to keep going.

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About immanence…. I have a sense of the possibilities of sparks of divinity within humans, and ways in which goodness can emerge and grow. I don’t see it as heresy.

 

I looked at Willard a bit, and will keep him on my radar. I often find phrases in theology that don’t sit well with me 100%, but see it as the inadequacy of language when dealing with the ineffable. If there are significant insights, I am grateful. Just can’t seem to read romance or crime fiction these days. lol.

 

 Sorry. Its hard dealing with bureaucratic challenges.

 

@Dimity 

 

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Good morning @Dimity

How are you feeling today? 🌞

Those bigger feelings of inadequacy can feel so heavy... I know with everything going on, it would be hard to see where you're enough (which you always are). For example, I can genuinely see how hard you work to not only show up for yourself, but also for others. 

With all of the things that have happened with your care professionals, alongside legal and financial challenges, it makes sense why you're feeling so overwhelmed... I like the theme of autonomy and control. When there are so many things out of our control, it can be helpful to reconnect with what we can do. Decluttering and gardening sound like helpful ways to create an environment that feels good for you. I also think reconnecting with people could help you to rediscover who Dimity is. Sometimes others help us to reflect back who we are when we are unable to see it. I know there are some internal barriers at play, but can we explore little steps towards these things each day? Knowing you are worthy of joy, change, and connection? 💛

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Hello @AuntGlow lovely to hear from you. I feel bone-weary but am trying to persevere .

Your message brought tears - I'm not sure why, perhaps relief or crystallising my sadness. You're very perceptive, I don't know who I am any more, if ever. 

Joy, change, connection seem out of reach.  But I'll make an effort to be watchful for opportunities. This afternoon I'll try to resist doomscrolling (a bad habit) and do things in my small orbit.

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Here with you, lovely @Dimity 🥰

You know how I have been focusing on glimmers lately? Well, I find those moments help to remind us who we are. So, perhaps continuing to explore them could shine a light on who you are at your core and in your heart? These things can be so, so micro... yet so meaningful too. They all build up in the body, because what we water will naturally grow. 🌱

I get stuck in the doomscrolling too! I have been trying to read and listen to more podcasts... what would you like to swap it for? 

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Yes i agree glimmers are important @AuntGlow . I'm just looking out on sunlight on the wind-stirred trees.

I'd like to be more active, and also read. Listening to audiobooks  could be easier, I'm frustrated by poor eyesight.

Time now for my walk. I sometimes photograph what brings me joy. So I guess I do experience it sometimes. 

 

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Good evening @Dimity,

Ah, that sounds so peaceful. Do you have a glimmer from today too?

I'm sorry, that really does sound overwhelming... audiobooks are great because you can lay back, close your eyes, allow in some restful energy too. Any books you're keen on listening to?

Would love to see some photos from your walks! 🌻