Partner discharged despite me saying he is still unwell!!!

[Attahua]

hi shaz51........remember I said the doctor was going to call me to discuss a discharge date?????? Well I got steamrolled!!!! She rang me.....a day later than agreed upon and I was TOLD my partner was ready for discharge so I had NO option but to drive him the 600 kms home.......it was a LONG drive with him basically telling me how he hears voices....still....and how he thinks he suffers from PTSD ( same stuff he was saying prior to admission!!!) and how he won't be taking his orals ( I told them that he cannot come home with orals!!!!) etc etc ........he is able to hold a normal conversation as well but as I kept saying to the staff......spend long enough interacting with him and they would see / hear for themselves how unwell he still is!!!!!!! Sooooooo I feel like we are back to square one ..........I did admittedly yell at the doctor but it was useless...... I kept trying to tell her he still believes the neighbour poisoned our dogs......she asked me 'which neighbour?????????? .......I said......' The one who lives next door!!!!!!' Omg!!!!!! Not only that but our local mental health team did not get the message that he had been discharged......until I rang them distressed!!!!!!!! Today .......I throw in the towel........I have lost the energy to fight this!!!!!!!!?

[NikNik]

Oh @Attahua

I'm so sorry to hear this!

Is the local mental health team helpful?

I'm hoping that can assist and support you also.

I noticed you directed your message to @Shaz51 , so I hope you don't mind me responding too.

I know it's only been 24 hours, but how are things going now?

[Attahua]

Hi Nik Nik. We are okay and yes the MH team have been today and seen for themselves just how unwell he still is! Am glad as I was beginning to think I was imagining it seeing as the doctors discharged him. He has had a calm day, the medication makes him feel quite sleepy but other than that travelling ok. Team will visit every day ( including possibly the weekend.....a first for us!!!!) I just need to stay calm as had a mini breakdown earlier today which was pointless as one cannot argue with an unwell person!!!!!! I go back to work Monday so he will just have to manage but maybe home is the best place as it is familiar and we have normal routines????!!!! Am just not used to him being discharged like this!!!!! I feel I have been put in an unfair position but I had no choice!!!! My partner was told before I was that he could go home so I could not very well refuse... had I done that he would never trust me again

[Shaz51]

Hello @Attahua, i am so sorry , I have been thinking of you and how you are , how is everything today ??

Thank you @NikNik

@Attahua, @NikNik, all my husband`s blood tests and scan have come back , and he is have side affects of the mads that he is on , so he has to go off them and on to new medications

@Attahua, my hubby asked me to ring  the MI team the other day and he said today that he might have to go back to see the MI Team

you cn not argue with an unwell person

[Shaz51]

Hi @NikNik

Have trouble , not getting any email notications at all , how do i get thet fixed

[NikNik]

Hi @Shaz51

Go to your username above and that will take you to your profile.To the right there will be a blue box which says 'Edit my settings' Within that there is a tab 'Subscriptions and notifications'. You might need to have a look around there to see what the problem is.

if you're not getting notificaitons when you're @mentioned  you might want to look specifically at 'Notification settings'

Let me know how you go.

Nik

[Attahua]

That's a positive Shaz51, that he has said he needs to see the team again!!!!!! Bugger about the meds though, I can only imagine how debilitating some of the side effects can be and having to try new meds can be frustrating!!!!! We have had a rocky day today but all is calm!!! He was still really in denial about being unwell, I guess because he still is but just not as bad, anyway we had a disagreement as in his mind I just had to worry about myself and my daughter when he was away in hospital.......nothing else blah blah blah so I blasted him and told him something he had said to me when he was really sick, I felt guilty for telling him as it was pretty awful but nevertheless it seemed to quieten him and although he has no memory of it he sees now I think that he was unwell ......possibly a bit of insight.....who knows and tonight out of the blue he just apologised and thanked me for everything. !!!!!! My daughter has had a hard day today too , she suffers anxiety and today everything, school assignments, work, sport, friendships all just became too much and she hid under the covers most of the day, I feel myself falling back into depression and my mum has been trying to convince me to take some leave from work but I have a student teacher starting in my class and just do not want to let her down!!!!! What a family we do make!!!!! Lol Upwards and onwards is all we can do!!!! I live by the mantra that this too will pass!!!!!Thanx for thinking of me!!!

[Shaz51]

Upwards and onwards is all we can do!!!! , is very true @Attahua

Thank you @Attahua

We saw the local doctor about the results and the new meds looks like sleeping tablets -- Hubby is not looking forward to taking them , he doesn`t need sleeping tablets

So we are going to get in contact with his MI Doctor to see what he says, needs another anti anxiety meds

tonight out of the blue he just apologised and thanked me for everything. -- that was great

he says there something wrong in his brain -- wondering if he needs a brain scan but he said no

Thank you @NikNik