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17-09-2017 02:27 AM
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It's all new...
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17-09-2017 02:39 AM
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Hi Rae
I'm NIteKat, one of the moderators overnight.
Thanks for getting in touch with the forum and sharing where youre at emotionally right now - trying to process whats happening.
You may have noticed, there is some wonderful help here and plenty of lived wisdom and experience. I'm sure you will be given some good advice and support in general.
Welcome
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17-09-2017 03:05 AM
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17-09-2017 03:41 AM
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Hi @Rae
People to change when they have therapy - I think it would be a good idea for you to have some support too
Also - when people are in private hospitals they do get close to the other people there - this can have various outcomes
Everything must be very confusing for you right now but one thing is true - you can't fix him - he has to fix himself and he has to want to get better
I do wish you the best
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17-09-2017 03:47 AM
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17-09-2017 12:38 PM
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I wonder if it's possible for you to ask to have a family therapy session with his treating psychiatrist - just you and hubby - talking. This might open the lines of communication open a bit more.
I wish you luck. Unfortunately there us no easy fixes here.
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17-09-2017 06:45 PM
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18-09-2017 09:32 AM
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Hi @Rae
Welcome to the Forums - I'm really glad you found this community!
I hope you don't mind, but I moved your discussion over to the Carers Forum, as there have been many people within this community who have been in a similar situation. They may have some additional advice and support on top of the great responses @Owlunar & @utopia provided.
Take care.
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18-09-2017 05:06 PM
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There are many reasons someone might pull away in a MH crisis. If infidelity is likely you need to protect yourself more than him.
I protected a man's credibility who had serious MI. A family is a life's commitment and work. I have no idea what your partner thinks or does, but GET SUPPORT FOR YOU. He has enough.
Most hospital facilities will refer close relatives to a CARER group. Whilst still in a caring role you might get some insight in the best way to approach things for yourself.Talk to the hospital as well as him.
The immediate feeling of closeness and identification with other patients can also be temporary and problematic long term ... or it might not ... all depends on individuals.
Good Luck.
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