Peer Group Chat// Asserting Our Boundaries // Thursday 23rd November 2023, 7-8:30PM AEDT

[amber22]

On Thursday 23rd November 2023, we will be holding a Peer Group Chat on the topic of Asserting Our Boundaries.

Asserting our boundaries with others can be difficult to do, but it is vital to maintain our own mental well-being and wellness. Join us to chat about some experiences that you may have had with setting boundaries, the different boundaries that we may have, and how we can assert these to others.  

The event start times across Australia are below:

This is currently held in daylight savings hours:

WA: 4pm 
NT: 5:30pm

SA: 6:30pm 

QLD: 6pm

NSW, ACT, VIC & TAS: 7pm 

For anyone unfamiliar with Peer Group Chats, each focuses on a specific topic and is guided by Peer Workers with lived experience of mental health issues and recovery, &/or caring for someone with complex mental health. A counsellor is also present as a moderator to help ensure a safe environment for individuals and the group. It is a space for us as peers to share our stories and experiences, and connect with those who are going through something similar. 

Anyone is welcome to join! Tagging some members who may be interested below:

@mr-robot-75 @Hope0011 @Shaz51 @Hams @Appleblossom @Captain24 @Snowie @chibam @Jacques @wellwellwellnez @outlander @NatureLover @Adge  @petrichor @Pancake @Gwynn @Sophia1 @pinklollipop15 @Lila3 @BlueBay @RedHorse @Arizona @SJT63 @Owen45 @Appleblossom @Eve7 @Bow @Snowie @Shaz51 @JungleGiants @BPDSurvivor @wellwellwellnez @NatureLover @utopia @Millieme @Anastasia @Jorge @CogsWhirl @Clawde @SunFlowersHope  @SJT63 @Owen45 @utopia @Laura4 @creative_writer @Glisten @7cough9 

Peer Group Chats are hosted outside of the forums, using a platform called Chatwee. 

To join an Online Peer Group and participate, you will need to register for an account with Chatwee.
To access the group to observe only and not participate, you can access Chatwee as a Guest.
On the night, follow this link to access Chatwee before the group starts.
You can join our Peer Group Chats every Thursday from 7:00-8:30pm (AEDT). Check out the FAQs page for more information.  

We hope to see you there 

 If you can't make it but are interested, you can always catch up reading the transcript afterwards here. 

[Captain24]

I’ll be at work sorry @amber22 

[TideisTurning]

No worries @Captain24. Feel free to join us back here for post discussion if that's something you'd like to do 😊

[TideisTurning]

Hi Everyone,

Just a reminder that the next Online Peer Group Chat on Asserting Our Boundaries will take place tonight from 7-8:30pm AEDT.  As always, for ease of reference, times across Australia are in the graphic and listed below: 

WA: 4pm 
NT: 5:30pm

SA: 6:30pm 

QLD: 6pm

NSW, ACT, VIC & TAS: 7pm  

Tonight, you can expect discussion about: 

• Our current boundaries that we hold 
•  Improving our assertiveness to others with our boundaries 
•  How support might be helpful when asserting boundaries 

Tagging members who have supported or otherwise interacted with the thread so far as well as those who may be interested to receive a reminder @Glisten @Blackbird11 @Patches59 @Appleblossom @Snowie @Oaktree @7cough9 @Shaz51 @Valiant83 @Jacques @_PixieSolstice_ @scruffypuffball @Duckie- 

[Glisten]

@TideisTurning  Thank you for the reminder 👍🏼

[tyme]

Hope to see you there @Glisten !

[TideisTurning]

Just a reminder that our Peer Group Chat on Asserting Our Boundaries will start in just under 20 minutes at 7pm here! Everyone is welcome! See you then 

Tagging members who have supported or otherwise interacted with the thread so far as well as those who may be interested to receive a reminder: @Glisten @Snowie @Blackbird11 @Shaz51 @Patches59 @BlueBay @ClockFace @Dimity @tyme @Birdofparadise8 @Person2 @Former-Member @Tazzi @anon1988 @scruffypuffball @deshift @Barbara2 @Bill16 @Bow @CrazyChick 

[deshift]

I'm pretty sure I just had to assert a boundary in my own thread. I find myself adjudicating my level of compassion, against my fierce desire to love myself.

[TideisTurning]

That's cool @deshift and a tricky thing to assert boundaries around too, when it sounds there's also a value conflict involved. I'd be really curious to hear what that experience was like for you, if it's something you feel comfortable sharing 😊 

For myself, I was recently in traduced to a tool known as DEAR MAN I wanted to share in case it might be useful for anyone trying to assert themselves and their boundaries; 

Describe 

Express 

Assert 

Reinforce 

Mindful 

Appear confident 

Negotiate

There is a video, article and worksheet you might like to look at also.

If you'd like to practice, we might be able to support each other here. If you have your own scenario to apply this to, awesome, otherwise, feel free to use my example- a close loved one comes to visit unannounced, then proceeds to criticise the cleanliness of your home, which does not meet their standard. Using DEAR MAN, how would you assert a boundary? 

@Glisten @Captain24 @7cough9 @Blackbird11 @Patches59 @Snowie @Appleblossom @Shaz51 

[Patches59]

Location of a display cabinet.  Friend helped me move the cabinet from garage into front bedroom.  I was fairly sure exactly where I wanted cabinet to be and explained this to her.  My friend felt it would be better in a different spot.  I reiterated my thoughts adding additional information as to items to be displayed in cabinet and stressed why I thought about having it near front windows.  I listened to things my friend said regarding her thoughts.  In the end we agreed to place the cabinet where I first said about with agreement with 2 points, my house plus cabinet could always be moved at another time.

might not fully meet Dear Man but closest I could think of for actual situation