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30 Jan 2024 05:41 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:41 PM
That is so valid, it can be really nerve wracking expressing our thoughts and needs to others - I think we may touch on this in a few questions time! @Quilly
But I just wanted to say that it's really great that you are expressing your needs towards others, I think that is a great first step and very challenging to do
30 Jan 2024 05:41 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:41 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:43 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:43 PM
@Quilly It can so be anxiety inducing waiting for the response. This is something that I defiantly feel very physically! Keeping in check with my body is a big help in this type situation for sure!
30 Jan 2024 05:43 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:43 PM
I like to think about what to say before I say something and then sometimes it is too late @oscbeep
30 Jan 2024 05:44 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:44 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:44 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:44 PM
Thank you for bringing this topic to the forum! I strongly believe in self-advocacy as well as the importance of community advocacy. I have read somewhere (I think from an anti-harassment organisation called HeartMob) that there are statistics that prove that defending and advocating for yourself improves mental health - even more so if the community supports the self-advocacy. ❤️
30 Jan 2024 05:45 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:45 PM
@Patchworks I love that you mentioned Practice! I treat assertiveness as a practice and not just something that I am. I will always be able to keep growing and evolving how I engage, and I think this is a very special thing!
30 Jan 2024 05:45 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:45 PM
I feel that @Shaz51! It can be so tough sometimes to come up with an articulate response in the moment.
30 Jan 2024 05:46 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:46 PM
What can we do to minimize the burden we impose on others when we do need to express needs that are contrary to what they want?
30 Jan 2024 05:48 PM
30 Jan 2024 05:48 PM
I don't have much confidence in speaking up. I struggle to express myself and just say yes or no. I try and do it sometimes but end up shutting myself down
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